Women Elder Sharing Romance Tips: Finding Mr. Right


I wanted to share my secret to eternal youth this week, but I couldn’t think of one.  Then I thought I could let you in on how at the age of 53, I’ve invested wisely and am now retired, except that this is not the case.

So instead I’m going to share something that I think is pretty interesting.  I was looking at the data collected from GoogleAnalytics, a free service from Google that shows which key words people are punching into their search boxes, and how many of them there are.  What I discovered is that the majority of people using the web are trying to find their perfect mate!  Uh oh, wait!  I think that also includes porn sites.  Geez.  I shouldn’t be surprised, since just about all of my single friends use online dating these days.  I even have friends who tell me, “I’ve got to find time to get on Match.com!”.

If only they realized that their type of “Mr. Right” is not anywhere but between the pages of a book.  Because having been in a relationship for over 25 years with the same partner, I can attest that it ain’t like what these single friends are yearning for.  It is not necessarily bad, it just isn’t romance every day!


If I were looking, I definitely wouldn’t look for a potential relationship online!  They pick the picture themselves and they write things that make them appear like they are auctioning themselves off on the block!

If I were looking for love, I would join a tango class, or a bowling league, or maybe just go the library and get some Harlequin romance novels and drift away in a comfortable chair.  Or just order online at my favorite book site: Better World Books.  A much better company than Amazon to support, by the way.

Here’s a quote from a summer read that I recently picked up (no pun intended).  Let me know if you agree with me that reading about romance might be better than an actual relationship.  It’s cheaper. There is no compromise.  When your heart gets broken, vicariously of course, it will be better by the end of the book.



He grasped me firmly, but gently, just above my elbow and guided me into a room – his room.

Then he quietly shut the door and we were alone.  He approached me soundlessly, from behind

and spoke in a low, reassuring voice close to my ear,

“Just relax.”

Without warning, he reached down and I felt his strong,
calloused hands start at my ankles – gently probing and

moving upward along my calves – slowly, but steadily.

My breath caught in my throat.

I knew I should be afraid, but somehow I didn’t care.

His touch was so experienced, so sure.

When his hands moved onto my thighs, I gave a slight
shudder and partly closed my eyes.

My pulse was pounding.

I felt his knowing fingers caress my abdomen, my ribcage.

And then, as he cupped my firm, full breasts in his hands,

I inhaled sharply.

Probing, searching, knowing what he wanted – he brought

his hands to my shoulders, slid them down my tingling spine and into my panties.

Although I knew nothing about this man – I felt oddly trusting and expectant.

This is a man, a man used to taking charge.

A man not used to taking ‘no’ for an answer.

A man who would tell me what he wanted.

A man who would look into my soul and say,

“Okay ma’am – you can now board your flight!”.


About Sadhvi

Sadhvi's trying to find the balance in life over 50 without having any surgery, taking any pills, or killing anyone. She doesn't want to look or feel the way she felt when she was 20 or 30. Trusting that everything is really OK unless you think about it helps her make it through each day. Also realizing that nothing can be done, and, that nothing matters really helps. Gardening (and weeding), poppies and flowers, painting on things, baking, and sharing on Oops50 helps to make it all right too.

5 thoughts on “Women Elder Sharing Romance Tips: Finding Mr. Right

  1. There are men we want, there are men that want us. There are men we like… men we respect and admire, men who know how to satisfy us in the moment, men that can read our minds, men that are polite and sensitive to our feelings. Unfortunately, rarely do we get all these qualities in the same man.

    Never the less, it doesn’t discount any of these qualities or any of our needs. Lots being written now about how women having begun to love/date like men have changed the ballgame and left men wimpy and misaligned.

    I think as a woman evolves, she attracts a different kind of man. The best part of it is as a woman evolves… that’s the key. As we become more sure of ourselves and what we want and need… then the whole picture changes. So often, they just want to satisfy us. They just want us to spell it out, what it is that we need and what WILL satisfy us. Sorry for the ramble. Somehow I’ve never been able to read ROMANCE but I sure have a desire for it and priority to receive it.

  2. Boy, I had my vibrator in bed with me and then THE END. Nearly threw it out the window laughing so hard.

  3. Sadhvi–Wow–you had me sitting on the edge of my seat, breathing hard. I laughed and laughed–you could be a novelist–writing romance novels or scripts for comedy sitcoms!

  4. LOL…and I am laughing out loud. That was funny.
    and yes I agree that a good romance novel may be better than a …..well, I want to say a real live doll..lol.
    No drama and no make belive sex..lol
    Sadhvi, you are funny. THANKS FOR THE GOOD LAUGH.
    Miz Rize

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