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Making Choices from that Higher Place

Barbara Brady
Barbara Brady

I’m feeling called to write about spiritual wisdom, and how it can be applied practically to what life dishes up for us, resulting in more happiness and peace of mind.

What do I mean by spiritual wisdom? Universal spiritual truths that transcend any particular religion which come from the world’s great religious & spiritual traditions and teachers. Of course they’re not the only ones privy to spiritual truth. We ALL have the ability to access that spiritual or soul wisdom, which resides within each of us, since each of us are, at our core, divine.

More and more I’ve been reminded that when faced with a life challenge, being able to view that challenge and its possible purpose(s) through a spiritual lens (love and spirit) vs. the more human lens (fear and ego), and make choices from that higher place, has made a huge difference in my experience of peace, freedom and empowerment.

To that end, I invite our oops50 readers to tell me about a challenge you’re currently facing in the comments area of this blog, including what you’ve already tried to do to solve this, and I’ll do my best to guide you to hear your highest truth; one that’s aligned with love and peace, and to give you specific ideas of how to apply spiritual wisdom to your situation for a better outcome.


Einstein once said: “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.” Most of us have been taught to operate from a linear consciousness based in ego, competition and “being right”. We’ve been taught to “take care of your own” and that there’s not enough_______________ to go around, (love, money, time), so you better not waste it, spend too much of it, lose it, etc.

The truth is, these outdated paradigms gear us to lead limited lives, based on fear, ego and scarcity. They constrict us and keep us playing small, and feed blaming, complaining:. “My husband left me. He did this to me….(e.g. “I’m a victim”). But what if he did this FOR you? For your soul’s growth and expansion? For your higher good in the long haul? Things do happen in our lives that can feel crappy and unfair. And it’s okay to be angry, sad, and discouraged. But we don’t have to get stuck there. We can’t always see the grand design, which reveals why these things happen in our lives. What if they’re happening for your soul’s evolution and growth? If you choose to think of your life as a beautiful tapestry, then all the colors are there for a purpose. Each is needed to create the whole. tapestry

 I look forward to hearing from you, Barbara Brady Coach & Trainer

 Global Leadership / Intercultural / Transformation through Transition



Flying Solo on Valentine’s Day – You’re Not Alone

Barbara Brady
Barbara Brady

Faith Popcorn, a marketing expert who predicts future trends, has predicted  “the rise of the solo citizen,” or what she calls “Single-Arity”. 

“In the last decade single households have increased by 30 percent worldwide.  Single is the new black.  Single culture will define the mainstream trends of tomorrow.  Single status is now being celebrated, and in 2012 China created “Singles Day” to honor its growing solo population.

We all know that we can feel loneliest when we’re in a relationship that just doesn’t feel right. When you’re flying solo, you can choose how you feel.  You can be “alone”, yet content and happy.  When we base our happiness on external conditions, like whether or not we have a wonderful mate, it’s hopeless.  So, whether you’re solo or coupled, decide to be happy now.  

Give yourself the gifts of self-care and self-love.  Today…

 ~ Eat some delectable, high quality chocolate.  Chocolate raspberry truffles, chocolate, chocolate chip cookies, warm chocolate croissants.  Chocolate stimulates the release of endorphins that generate feelings of pleasure and promotes a sense of well being.

Chocolate Raspberry Truffles
Chocolate Raspberry Truffles

~ Call a favorite friend or family member and tell them what you love and appreciate about them. Thank them for being in your life.

~ Indulge in a luxurious lavender bubble bath, light some candles and put on your favorite, relaxing music.

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A Bubble Bath


~ Relax with homemade buttered popcorn and a fun inspiring movie that speaks to self-love and living life fully, like “Eat, Pray, Love”, “Shirley Valentine” or  “How Stella Got Her Groove Back”.

~ Write yourself a love letter.  Tell yourself how much you love and appreciate YOU.  Don’t worry – no one has to see it. 🙂

~ Consider planning a self-marriage ceremony.  

~ Relish your time with self.  In treating yourself lovingly, you’re telling the universe this is how you expect to be treated by others.  

“I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back.  But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself.  And if you can find someone to love the you, you love, well, that’s just fabulous.” Carrie from Sex and the City



Barbara Brady

Coach & Trainer, Global Leadership / Intercultural / Transformation through Transition




No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.

Albert Einstein

Play: It’s Not Just For Kids

Oops50:BarbaraWe usually associate play with children.

But why did we, the adults, stop playing?  What is at the heart of playing, and why is it good?  How can we do it more?
Most of us in the States grew up with the Puritan work ethic, which values hard work and frugality.  As Americans, we have a reputation for living to work.  Many of us are perfectionists and tend to deny ourselves permission to do something unless we can do it perfectly, or it’s “productive”.  We feel guilty if we’re just having fun.
Thanks to Stuart Brown, psychiatrist and founder of “The National Institute of Play,” there’s now ample scientific evidence showing the benefits of play in the animal kingdom.  A neurologist discovered humans develop more emotional maturity and better decision-making skills when they play more.
Brown says, “Play energizes us and enlivens us.  It eases our burdens. It renews our natural sense of optimism and opens us up to new possibilities.”
Play is pleasurable.  It’s purposeless and fun. When we’re truly playing, we lose all sense of time and enter that flow state. Our spirit will always urge us to play, as our spirit is always seeking the highest feeling of joy and aliveness.  It’s our mind that puts the brakes on: “Play is frivolous” “I don’t have time”…
So how do we get back to play?: There are five key ways:
1.    Get into your heart energy and let-go of play saboteurs that come from the mind.
2.    Remember back to when you were a kid having the most fun – what were you doing? How did you feel when you were playing? What would feel like fun now?
3.    Look at role models to inspire you. Movies like “Harold and Maude” and “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off” are wonderful for inspiring play. The author SARK is another one.
4.    Give yourself permission. Let go of perfection and productivity and enjoy the process. Your only gauge should be how you’re feeling.
5.    Invite your friends to play.
Chew quietly your sweet sugarcane God-Love, and stay playfully childish. – Rumi

Workshop this Saturday!!!! The Power of Non-Attachment

Barbara Brady

The Power of Non-attachment workshop will be taking place just 2 days from today, on Saturday, June 29, from 10:00 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. at a beautiful office/house space on Montford Ave.

I’m limiting this workshop to 12 participants to allow for more depth and attention.  There are currently some seats still available.

Through this workshop, my desire is that you find more freedom, peace and empowerment in relationship to anything you may be attached to – whether it’s your work life, a relationship, or other situation.

In this 2 ½ hour workshop you will:

1) Identify where in your life you’re attached

2) Learn a practical and powerful 7-Step process that will allow you to detach

3) Apply this 7-Step process to one situation in your life

4) Start experiencing more peace, freedom, and empowerment through practicing detachment

To reserve your seat, please email or call me first, to let me know you plan on attending.  Cost is $25.  You can pay with Paypal at: http://www.mycoachbarbara.com/Resources.asp (scroll to bottom of the page).

I appreciate you paying in advance as this will make for a shorter check-in time this Saturday morning.

If you’re not able to pay in advance for some reason, please call me in advance to make sure there are still seats available, then you can bring cash or a check this Saturday. Check-in time is: 9:45-10:00am.

This workshop will begin promptly at 10:00 a.m.

Are You Discontent? A Transition May Be Imminent!

Barbara Brady

Barbara Brady is a Life Transitions Coach whom Annice and I met at a recent conference. She helps clients merge the logical, rational, left brain with their intuitive, creative, right brain resulting in more satisfying choices through the combined wisdom of head and heart, and she works with a lot of women over fifty! 

We asked her to write a series of articles for the blog on dealing with different types of transitions.  Here’s her first!  I hope that, if you like it, you will add a comment to let her know!   Jane

You feel a vague irritability.  Small things that normally don’t bother you, now do.  You may find yourself hypersensitive to what people say.  Your comments may be tinged with sarcasm or cynicism.  You may compare yourself to others, envying their work, creative expression, or happy relationship. You may notice your energy is lower than usual, and things that used to excite you, don’t as much.  You may feel restless or distracted:

“It’s getting to the point where I am no fun anymore, I am sorry.” –“Judy Blue Eyes,” Crosby Stills Nash & Young

Discontent has been defined as: “a longing for something better than the present situation” and “showing or experiencing dissatisfaction or restless longing” (www.cogsci.princeton.edu/cgi-bin/webwn).  The good news is: discontent is often a warning sign that change is coming, that a transition is imminent.  It’s a wake-up call from the spirit, saying, “Hel-looooo!  What are we doing here? (In this relationship, job, situation, etc).  Something needs to change!”  It’s a message that something in your life isn’t working.  


This discontent that is tugging at your sleeve needs to be thanked and attended to.  It’s a sign that you’re on a trajectory that you don’t want to stay on indefinitely.  To be in charge of your life – e.g. at cause, vs. at effect, you need to really make discontent your friend and see what it’s trying to tell you.  When you really pay attention and “get it”, you can then proactively make the choice for a transition that will move you forward in the direction you want, in the way you want, with grace.

Discontent is a Blessing

Let’s face it:  without discontent, do you think Columbus would have sailed the ocean blue?

Discontent has been the catalyst that’s spurred me on to take risks, despite my fears, including making geographic and career moves that have enriched my life immeasurably.  It’s forced me to question and adjust my thinking and level of acceptance and gratitude, especially in relationships.

Contentment is wonderful, BUT it can imply complacency.  Where would the world be if the following people had been complacent: Moses, Jesus, Joan of Arc, Abe Lincoln, Helen Keller, Rosa Parks, Einstein, Martin Luther King, Gandhi, Mother Theresa, etc. etc?

Five Steps to Transforming Discontent

1.    Learn From the Past – What did you do in the past when you’ve felt discontented? What worked and what didn’t work? If you could do it over again, what would you have done differently? Continue reading Are You Discontent? A Transition May Be Imminent!