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Sadhvi Sez: Finding the Balance on this Last Day of Spring

Sadhvi

I wasn’t always into gardening, or painting, or cooking.  I was too busy making money, juggling things, and multi-tasking.  I felt an adrenaline rush knowing how good I was at keeping it all together.

Or so I thought.  I got into a car accident and everything seemed to stop.  It was the first time I wasn’t able to “do” anything.  I had to slow down, and it felt weird.  The conditioning that tells us that we have to keep getting better, to be on top, to be the best, to “do” is something is almost impossible to avoid.  It’s stupid, really.

During my recuperation, I started to paint, to garden, to make recipes that I thought were difficult, but were not.  It turns out that I have a lot of energy, and it was so hard to not do much, and to rest and sleep many hours in the day.

Each day seemed to be a miraculous event.  My senses that had got jolted from the impact of that other car made my awareness of simple things heightened.

Worrying about money stopped.  Worrying about being fat stopped.  Worrying stopped, actually.

I put lots of colors on white paper.  I sent the ones that I liked to my friend, who liked them too.  (Tosh, I will always be grateful to you because without you liking those paintings, I would not have continued).

"Double Delight" Roses

Things grew in my first garden back then without me doing anything except making the soil nice, and bending over and putting the seeds in the earth according to which day Maria Thun said I should.

Now twenty years later, I feel as busy as I did right before the accident.  My experience is that there is a link between sickness and stress levels, and accidents are not accidental.

Elderberry Flowers

I am on high alert right now, paying attention to my thoughts, and taking time for moments where I am not “doing” anything.

I am not keeping up with the news.  I am not trying to look younger, to have sex as often as I did when I had eggs in my basket, so to speak, nor am I buying every new toy in the world of technology in the belief that I need to get it to be able to be “more connected”.  Frankly, I am over being “connected”.

I am not trying to fit more things in my day that will make me better.

There are things that I am doing that I feel help me to cope these days:

1. I am getting a massage regularly from my favorite person, Mimansa (Thank You Mimansa!).

2. I am going out into my garden to see what is blooming, because I planted the flowers that I love over the last 12 years and if I don’t get out to walk around because I’m too tired every day, I miss the fragrance and the joy I get from seeing them.

3. I am taking more time with my partner to do things – little things.  Like listening to an old Van Morrison album and kind of spacing out on the living room floor.  Or driving to get a beer somewhere in the evening.  I don’t want to miss out on the time that I have with him because I was “too busy”.  Nope, it’s time to set some boundaries and limits and to enjoy what I have.

I am constantly trying to find the balance between being able to handle the stress of work with having a life too.

Quan Yin and Coneflower

It’s interesting how HuffPost now has a new section called “The Third Metric: Redefining Success Beyond Money and Power”.  It’s all about being successful, and then, it becomes too much, and then, one has to find the balance – it is such a common quest and problem for many of us!

And on this last day of Spring 2013, I will end this week’s post with the question, “What are you “doing” these days to relax and find the balance?”

xxx

Sadhvi

Women over 50: Arianna Huffington friended me on FaceBook!

SADHVI

I don’t have to tell you that there’s a lot going on these days – everyone knows. The price of gas went up about 40 cents this past week.  Genetically modified food will be introduced to our food system and it will not have to be labeled.  It’s getting more difficult to buy a house and keep one.  Food prices will continue to go up.  The US Government is going broke.  The bee population is rapidly dwindling.  A computer is now smarter than humans.  And as much as I try to keep it simple, avoiding the news, it just seems to be everywhere!

Huffington Post got bought out by AOL recently for something like $350 million.  It used to be my homepage, but since the AOL buyout, the picture of the latest newsworthy item stays the same for a day or even longer.  It’s almost like it’s broken now.  I found some site that has soothing beach music to replace it, but its like listening to elevator muzak playing, “Feeling Groovy”.  Don’t worry, I’ll get used to it.  I mean, this is the start of the Brave New World; I just need a little more time.

By the way, I am happy for Arianna Huffington, the site’s innovative founder.  She created something totally unique, and the site felt alive and captured the pulse of  worldwide news minute by minute.  In my opinion, she deserves every million that she got for it.  It’s just too bad that AOL couldn’t keep it alive for more than a twitter second.

ARIANNA HUFFINGTON

I had a dream the other night that Arianna “friended” me on FaceBook and asked me and the Oops50 girls to be part of a new site.  I told her we had a vision to create a new show called “The Other View”, and Arianna said, “Yes, that’s exactly my vision, too.”

Instead of talking about things that hold no interest for me or other women over 50, (which just so happens to be the biggest population of women on the planet) we talked about what we wanted to talk about, and everything we shared was acknowledged and appreciated.  And, we didn’t change as we got famous.  I still wore the same monochromatic clothes and black pants with an elastic waist, I did not start dyeing my hair, and I still wore the same Chanel lipstick that I have worn for years.

I am proud of our baby boomer generation of women over 50.  We were revolutionary in many ways: we went braless, we wore pants (!), blue jeans even!  We were into being ourselves, and that meant being free.  So why would we want to look or be anything other than who we are right now?  That’s what “The Other View” would be about. Hmmm…Arianna, look us up on Facebook ‘cuz we’d love to share the Other View with you!

To get into a mellow space, click below to take a trip back in time with Simon and Garfunkel…it’s the real thing and it’s time to feel groovy!

Move Your Money

I want to add my voice to all of those that are encouraging you to ‘move your money’ from any of the big banks that are holding it now to any number of local, community banks.  One of the best explanations of why this is important was on the Huffington Post blog lately, so I’ll quote from Arianna Huffington:

“The big banks on Wall Street, propped up by taxpayer money and government guarantees, have had a record year, making record profits while returning to the highly leveraged activities that brought our economy to the brink of disaster. In a slap in the face to taxpayers, they have also cut back on the money they are lending, even though the need to get credit flowing again was one of the main points used in selling the public the bank bailout. But since April, JP Morgan/Chase, Citibank, Bank of America, and Wells Fargo — all of which took billions in taxpayer money — have cut lending to businesses by $100 billion. Meanwhile, America’s Main Street community banks — the vast majority of which avoided the banquet of greed and corruption that created the toxic economic swamp we are still fighting to get ourselves out of — are struggling.”

And she goes on:

“The idea is simple: If enough people who have money in one of the Big Six banks… move it into smaller, more local, more traditional community banks, then collectively we, the people, will have taken a big step toward re-rigging the financial system so it becomes again the productive, stable engine for growth it’s meant to be. It’s neither Left nor Right — it’s populism at its best. …. And you don’t have to worry, there is zero risk: deposit insurance is just as good at small banks — and unlike the big banks they don’t provide the toxic dividend of derivatives trading in a heads-they-win, tails-we-lose fashion.” Continue reading Move Your Money