Sadhvi Shares: Nan and Me


There are a handful of people I’ve met that have touched me deeply, and Nan is one of those. I met her in my freshman year at a college in a small town in Ohio way back in the fall of 1976.

That period is my least favorite in my entire life. In fact, Melinda, another long-time friend from way back in high school who went with me to Miami, feels the same. We have this ongoing argument as to who was the one who convinced the other to go to this college. And I know it was her who convinced me!

I first met Nan in the laundry room of the dormitory of McCracken Hall. I think I took Nan’s clothes out of the dryer, and she came in and asked what I was doing, and I yelled at her. I don’t remember really, but she does! I guess I like to show my strong emotional side (some have called it bitchiness) right away, as a sort of test. Wow, that was over 35 years ago, and whatever bond was made, it is still there.

It turns out that Nan thinks I am funny, and I think she is funny. That’s important to me. No one can be my friend if they don’t have the same sense of humor as me. I feel understood by her, and often communicated with her back then without talking. I know from experience that we are all multidimensional beings, and that language is overrated. Just ask my husband. I feel the same about Karen, who is in the picture on the lower right. I hope to write about her sometime soon.

I tend to have this curious nature in general,  and value my friends opinions for new things and good products.

So I asked Nan a few questions:

What was the name of the first record you ever bought?

Hmmm, let me think a moment. Oh, it was Sukiyaki, the song that came out in 1963 that was sung in Japanese. My mom couldn’t stand it; it drove her crazy!


What is your favorite lipstick?

I usually use the Clinique freebies that they give out. And then, for special times, I have this one from Guerlain that is a little luxury, because it is so expensive (LIKE ALMOST $50!), and the case is so over the top, but the color and the way it makes my lips feel is really great. I really wish Guerlain would make it cheaper by not having the heavy metal case and mirror.

Which group did you like more growing up, The Beatles or the Rolling Stones?

Oh definitely The Beatles. There was something that I found dark and disturbing about the Rolling Stones.

What is the one thing you have to put on or have on that makes you feel good about leaving the house?


Well, I guess it would be my perfume. I like this one called “Artemesia” by Penhaligon. I use it all the time. It smells really clean. In the winter, I like to use this one called “For Her” by Narciso Rodriguez.  My sister, Tina, says that it smell like “sex on a stick”.

Thanks for sharing Nan. I still think my friends are cool, even if we are getting older! I’m really looking forward to this summer’s get-together. Melinda? Tina? Teresa? Mary Ann? Are you guys coming?  Karen has a pool.





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Sadhvi's trying to find the balance in life over 50 without having any surgery, taking any pills, or killing anyone. She doesn't want to look or feel the way she felt when she was 20 or 30. Trusting that everything is really OK unless you think about it helps her make it through each day. Also realizing that nothing can be done, and, that nothing matters really helps. Gardening (and weeding), poppies and flowers, painting on things, baking, and sharing on Oops50 helps to make it all right too.

8 thoughts on “Sadhvi Shares: Nan and Me

  1. Bubba made nut/poppy seed rolls all the time. She was a great baker. At Easter she made this cheese that was put in a cloth to drip the liquid in it. She tied these ends of that cloth to to dining room chairs and it hung between them. It was good stuff.
    XoXoXo Mom

  2. Hi Sal, You know, I missed the whole Golden Girls time. And if you’re finished with the nut rolls, I think it’s time to make the next batch. And poppy seed rolls too. Hey, I think Bubba made them for Easter too, didn’t she? Or was it just Christmas?

  3. I remember that song, Sadhvi! For you to have ‘gold friends’ is just wonderfu. Like ‘The Golden Girls’ remember that TV series? Did I tell you we just ate the last of the nut rolls you made and sent us? You’re the best!

  4. Hi Sadhvi,
    I loved your story about Nan. I feel the same way about her. She is very special to me. I hope we can all get together again. Friendship is sooooo important. Especially the “gold” friends.

  5. Isn’t that funny Katina, I hadn’t heard that song since 1963. When Nan told me it was her first record she ever bought, I couldn’t remember it at all from the name. Then, after listening to the song in its entirety, it altered my reality, and now I can’t get it out of my head! I will come to visit you, but just me. And we will swim. And detox, and drink good wine at night with lots of good food so we have a reason to sleep in and go be in the pool before brunch, and then detox the rest of the day, to be prepared for another night – promise!
    Sending you lots of love!

  6. OMG Sadhvi!
    I don’t think I’ve even heard that song since 1963!!!! :-))

    What a trip!

    Just remember…I, also, have a pool…..

    Love you
    Have a blast with your GF’s


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