Sadhvi Sez: Finding the Way


It’s kind of funny, because women under 50 don’t read this blog – they think it’s some kind of thang that they might catch, this being over 50.  And funny too that some of my friends who are men read it, secretly, never commenting.

No matter who you are these days, I have a feeling that all of us are in the same boat, as a humanity, and that the intensity, the shocks, are being felt on some level by everyone.

I have met people recently who have had the whole side of their house sheared off from a hail storm that hit in the middle of the night, with all windows being shattered in the house and their cars.  And I’m not talking about Joplin, Missouri either.

I have met people recently who have lost everything: their jobs, their homes, their future.  They have a blank look behind their eyes, that suggests no more hope.

I also meet a lot of people trying their best to believe themselves when they are asked how they are doing and they answer, “I’m Awesome!”

I realize that all of us are finding our own way to be OK with these times, in our own ways, the best we can.

Observing, feeling compassion and imagining that things will get better, once the chaos is over, is my way.  I am trying to be very open to magic and awe-some-ness.  So finding words from the mystic poet, Rumi is one of the gifts that I have stumbled upon recently that I want to share.

Wishing you well,


“This being human is a guest house.  Every morning is a new arrival.  A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor…welcome and entertain them all.

Treat each guest honorably.  The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.”


About Sadhvi

Sadhvi's trying to find the balance in life over 50 without having any surgery, taking any pills, or killing anyone. She doesn't want to look or feel the way she felt when she was 20 or 30. Trusting that everything is really OK unless you think about it helps her make it through each day. Also realizing that nothing can be done, and, that nothing matters really helps. Gardening (and weeding), poppies and flowers, painting on things, baking, and sharing on Oops50 helps to make it all right too.

9 thoughts on “Sadhvi Sez: Finding the Way

  1. As is so often the case, sadhvi, you have written just what I needed to read today. And the Rumi quote too is perfect. Thank you!

  2. This is one of my all-time favorite flowers. It comes in different colors, but this deep burgundy is maybe my most beloved. Looking forward to seeing your garden creation on your deck! I will bring the promised salad and herbs, so save some room in your pots.

  3. @Katy: There have been recent studies on how we, as humans, are wired for optimism. What seems to drive most people, is how to be “happy” or to escape any thing that is not “good” or not “wonderful”…which, it seems, is the root of the problem! These studies prove that to be “happy”, we don’t need a lot of money. We just need enough. And again, that is the problem! It turns out if our basic needs are met, and we love and feel loved, that contentment brings happiness. Wishing you well…

  4. @Lisa: you know we would love to have you write for Oops50. I would enjoy hearing how you are seeing things these days and what gets you through each day. Would you like that?

  5. Sadhvi – I’ve been spending time in Ecuador this year and recently met a couple who have lived here most of their lives. I was at the house that they are building, on a small piece of land. The woman pointed to a little house with no windows, no inside plumbing, no electricity and on a tiny piece of land. She said ” there are 8 people living in that house, they bathe in the river, wash their clothes there, cook outdoors using wood, and we give them water from our source, so they have fresh water.” She said, “they are the happiest people I’ve ever met”.
    These people are so connected to the earth and are so self sufficient. They also are so close to their families. It makes me wonder about happiness and what really facilitates that. Thanks for sharing your insights.

  6. Sadhvi–Love the thots you’ve shared. The Rumi quote really hits home–thanks for including it. Sometimes I work hard to get rid of “bad” feelings (even tho I know better) and if I follow his suggestion I always end up feeling better!!!

  7. Hey, I have that flower sitting on my deck waiting to be potted. Didn’t know its name. I will be placing it underneath my hummingbird feeder. So beautiful.

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