Feeling Invisible? Wanna Tell Oprah?

 Here at Oops50, we received notification from the Oprah Winfrey show (yes, we are on her people’s radar!!!) that they are going to do a show on the subject of women feeling “invisible” with age.  They wanted us to tell our “Beautiful Women over 50” readers, in case someone feels this subject speaks directly to her and would like to go on television to talk about it.  The application process involves writing your story (2000 words or less) and uploading your picture.  Here’s the description from their website posting:   

 Were you the beauty queen or always the prettiest girl in the room – and now that you’re losing your looks, you feel you’ve lost your sense of self?  Did you always rely on your beauty to get what you wanted?  Without your looks, do you feel like you have nothing to fall back on?  Were you always able to coast on your looks and never had to work hard to get a job or to do well in school?  Maybe you felt like you didn’t have to be smart or develop other skills because you were pretty?  Was all the male attention you received a big part of your self worth and identity?  Do you often think back on how easy life was for you when you were a knockout?  Do you now feel invisible when you were once the center of attention?  Perhaps now that you no longer feel as beautiful, you feel you have lost your self-worth or self-esteem?  Are you or someone you know terrified of losing your looks?  Are you having a hard time aging?  Are you obsessed with looking gorgeous and feel that without your looks, you are struggling to find your purpose in life?  Have you had plastic surgery to try to look how you did in your twenties?  If you are a woman who is coping with losing the one thing you always relied on – your looks – we want to hear from you.  Please tell us your story. 
If you are interested in applying, here’s the link:
But keep in mind, don’t apply unless you are “willing to appear on television!”

10 thoughts on “Feeling Invisible? Wanna Tell Oprah?

  1. I am 52 and consider myself attractive for my age. But,,, it just
    kills me when men look at my 15 year old daughter and look right
    through me-and these are men my age and older. Most of them
    could be her grandfather!!! I would never look at a 15 year old
    boy the way these men stare at my daughter!! It just infuriates me
    with this double standard in our society!

  2. Love yourself and everything will fall into place – maybe even around your hips of boobs. Life may end for us all today, but I remember my daughter telling me to hug my parents and look them in the eyes and tell them I love you – because someday you won’t be able to do this.

    So give a person a hug and look them in their eyes and say I Love you today! Life is beautiful and so is everyone.

  3. Are you kidding me? What is with the assumption that (a) we were good looking as teens? Anybody remember acne? oily hair? residual baby fat? late-blooming? adolescent awkwardness? (b) What attention from boys? For those of us over 50 who read this blog, I would wager that most of us intimidated the heck out of boys because we were not afraid to speak our minds, show our brains, and assert ourselves. (c) And losing self-esteem and self-worth? Good grief! I wouldn’t go back to those years of adolescent angst for anything. And thank G-d that my children have now outgrown that stage, too! Nope, give me the good ol’ 50’s, where I’m eligible to wear a red hat, don’t have to give an excuse to speak my mind, and am finding new and more creative ways to tell people where and how to stuff it (without feeling compelled to append, “Bless your heart”).

  4. I agree with what so many of you have said. It’s not about losing one’s identity or self-worth, rather taking pride in aging gracefully and enjoying it! I wasn’t a beauty queen, but I was certainly no woof-woof either and turned quite a few heads in my 20s, and still do, I might add. At almost 51, I get a kick when my niece tells me all her friends (who are beauty queens) say how good I look for my age. I think my beauty now comes from feeling so comfortable in my own skin.

  5. That is the most self absorbing self centered subject and can’t believe Oprah would do a show on that crap. Even I, who read those garbage mags between my good reads would not view a show like that. I have to say I had the “looks” and I don’t look too bad now for 59. My sisters said I was the good looking sister, really, Annice and Minda are beautiful too and we all look like sisters. How a about a show that tells the story of good health in one’s life, one that had a great life with a lot to look forward to and then one day a lot of your dreams are put on the back shelf because you are robbed of your health, mid life and aging gracefully is on the back burner because you are struggling with major health issues that can’t be fixed. How about these people who suffer daily in a silent hell but who hold on to the hope and desire they had when they were “well”? Women with health issues have a hard time and struggle to keep their dignity, sometimes society does not take well to them, friends are lost, were they friends at all? it is sometimes a silent struggle. Anyway, that is my life and this beauty stuff is not something that our young people even need to see, the world is a difficult place and we need to work on more important issues. We need to show everyone that to believe in yourself with what you have and how we look naturally as we age is all we need to live lives full of promise, it is out there, we need to go get it even if it is in little steps, the mountain will still be there! Let’s all show them!

  6. I guess I was never into the beauty queen scene either, but I definitely turned heads and didn’t really care when I was younger. I believe that I liked how I looked and I therefore did look good.
    Now that I am a middle-aged woman, I know that I look different than I did when I was young.
    Hell, I don’t even recognize myself in the mirror when I take a look. It is really kind of fascinating, really.
    I stopped dyeing my hair cuz I realized that there are cancer-causing ingredients in most, the ones that I used anyway.
    This has been the biggest thing I have done in my attempt at accepting myself as I get older.
    More to come…!

  7. Yes,I feel I am aging as gracefully as possible.
    I cannot relate to being “the beauty queen who has lost her looks and now gets no attention”.
    I don’t know anyone who is so obsessed with losing their looks that they have lost their self esteem. I just try to be as active as possible and find joy and passion in my life. I have wonderful friends of all ages who never make me feel invisible. I didn’t appreciate my beauty when I was young and I sometimes regret that, but I also feel freer and less self conscious than I used to. I say “be involved” in your life and you won’t be invisible!

  8. that topic doesn’t draw ratings and is not popular. No one wants to hear about us. The closest it gets unfortunately is when hollywood actresses are shown without makeup or something stupid like that.

  9. I want a show about women “trying” to age gracefully. Hollywood is full of women obsessed with staying young. What about the women who don’t want to spend the second half of their life obsessed with their face and body but want to focus on personal growth? What about our voice?

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