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    Question of the Week: What Was Your First Rock Concert?

    Thursday, June 13th, 2013

    Jane

    Okay, so this one will really date me!  My very first rock concert was the Beatles live in Baltimore on their first American tour, September 13, 1964, at the Civic Center.  I wasn’t even supposed to go because my mother thought I was too young to really enjoy it—since I was only in the fifth grade—but then, after reading more about how famous these four guys were becoming, she decided this might turn out to be something historic, so I should go along.  (My mother hadn’t liked the Beatles at first, but all that changed after she saw them on the Ed Sullivan Show.)   I’d heard the Beatles’ songs for months, since my sisters had been playing them over and over again on our record player in the basement.  I was  particularly thrilled, I remember, to hear “‘Till There Was You,” the love song from “The Music Man,” done by Paul McCartney.  My favorite line was “But I never saw them winging…” because it was so precious  how he pronounced it “sawr.”

    The Poster for the Show

    Here is what I remember about the concert:  girls screaming and pulling on their hair; the whole hall being so loud that you could barely hear them sing, but you could hear every word of “She Loves You,”  since it was so loud.  The crowd went crazy and sang along with the “Yeah, Yeah, Yeah.”

    Paul and the Gang

    Check out the man and his son!

    Most of all, I remember falling in love with Paul McCartney.  I wasn’t too young for that.  I thought he was the cutest boy I had ever seen in my whole life, and when he spoke in interviews on television, I thought I was going to die.  I hate to say it, but he still has that effect on me, even now, when he is pretending to be an old man.

    Apparently, tickets cost $3.75 each.  And the Beatles stayed at the Holiday Inn!  I came home from that concert and joined the Beatles Fan Club—I still have my membership button!

     

     

    Now it’s your turn!  Please, share a story of your first rock concert with us. 

    To post a comment, click on “Comment” below.  You have to enter an   email address, but, trust me, you won’t get any mail from anybody as a result.  And, where it asks for a website address, you can just put, www.Oops50.com.

    Thanks!

    Jane

    Are You Discontent? A Transition May Be Imminent!

    Tuesday, May 14th, 2013

    Barbara Brady

    Barbara Brady is a Life Transitions Coach whom Annice and I met at a recent conference. She helps clients merge the logical, rational, left brain with their intuitive, creative, right brain resulting in more satisfying choices through the combined wisdom of head and heart, and she works with a lot of women over fifty! 

    We asked her to write a series of articles for the blog on dealing with different types of transitions.  Here’s her first!  I hope that, if you like it, you will add a comment to let her know!   Jane

    You feel a vague irritability.  Small things that normally don’t bother you, now do.  You may find yourself hypersensitive to what people say.  Your comments may be tinged with sarcasm or cynicism.  You may compare yourself to others, envying their work, creative expression, or happy relationship. You may notice your energy is lower than usual, and things that used to excite you, don’t as much.  You may feel restless or distracted:

    “It’s getting to the point where I am no fun anymore, I am sorry.” –“Judy Blue Eyes,” Crosby Stills Nash & Young

    Discontent has been defined as: “a longing for something better than the present situation” and “showing or experiencing dissatisfaction or restless longing” (www.cogsci.princeton.edu/cgi-bin/webwn).  The good news is: discontent is often a warning sign that change is coming, that a transition is imminent.  It’s a wake-up call from the spirit, saying, “Hel-looooo!  What are we doing here? (In this relationship, job, situation, etc).  Something needs to change!”  It’s a message that something in your life isn’t working.  

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    This discontent that is tugging at your sleeve needs to be thanked and attended to.  It’s a sign that you’re on a trajectory that you don’t want to stay on indefinitely.  To be in charge of your life – e.g. at cause, vs. at effect, you need to really make discontent your friend and see what it’s trying to tell you.  When you really pay attention and “get it”, you can then proactively make the choice for a transition that will move you forward in the direction you want, in the way you want, with grace.

    Discontent is a Blessing

    Let’s face it:  without discontent, do you think Columbus would have sailed the ocean blue?

    Discontent has been the catalyst that’s spurred me on to take risks, despite my fears, including making geographic and career moves that have enriched my life immeasurably.  It’s forced me to question and adjust my thinking and level of acceptance and gratitude, especially in relationships.

    Contentment is wonderful, BUT it can imply complacency.  Where would the world be if the following people had been complacent: Moses, Jesus, Joan of Arc, Abe Lincoln, Helen Keller, Rosa Parks, Einstein, Martin Luther King, Gandhi, Mother Theresa, etc. etc?

    Five Steps to Transforming Discontent

    1.    Learn From the Past – What did you do in the past when you’ve felt discontented? What worked and what didn’t work? If you could do it over again, what would you have done differently? (more…)

    Sadhvi Asks: Are You Ready?

    Saturday, May 11th, 2013

    Barbara Kingsolver photo by Annie Griffiths

    Last weekend it rained nonstoop for 3 days and 3 nights which amounted to about 5.5 inches of rain in our neck of the woods.  I know that doesn’t sound like much maybe, but believe me, it was.  And during that time, the sun never ever came out.  It felt appropriate that Barbara Kingsolver’s newest book, Flight Behavior, had just become available at the library; one that I’d been waiting for and was excited to read.  I really enjoy her books, and love getting lost in them, so it turns out that since there was nothing that I could do outside, I could disappear head first into it.

    The book is so good that I want you to go and put yourself on the waiting list at your library, or buy it at your local book store right now, and because I don’t want to spoil it for you by telling you anything about it, I will only tell you what the overall subject is.  Which won’t ruin the story that Kingsolver weaves through her characters, which makes her one of my favorite authors.  I read on her website that she reads the audio version, and I will get that just to hear her tell the story.

    So it’s about climate change.  Which no matter what you believe or don’t believe, or feel or don’t feel, is happening right now.  And since a few days ago, we have reached and gone beyond the tipping point of what the Earth can handle CO2-wise to keep the climate stable.  Which means feeling like it’s winter is the summer, feeling like it’s summer in the winter, and a lot of freakish storms.

    Which up until I read Flight Behavior, had me in a subtle state of a tizzy.  I mean, I’ve been noticing the weather/season changes for years, being a gardener and all.  If I wasn’t tuned in that way, I might not notice it.  But since moving to Asheville in 1998, our zone has gone from 6b to 7a.  Now those kinds of things don’t happen without the people who watch and know these kind of things noticing!

    So if you’ve been feeling a little anxious, or even a bit worried about the future, do take the time and read Flight Behavior.  It might make you feel better about the future.  After all, I don’t have children and don’t have that blind feeling that people who do seem to have that “everything is OK and everything will be all right”.

    So are you ready though, to embrace the change that will be taking place at an accelerated rate?  I mean, will you choose to freak out and keep repeating the latest extreme stories that are on the news?  Or argue that it’s not true – that there has always been unstable conditions called “the weather”.  Or will you start to go inside more and feel the stability of that?

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    Here is a quote from the book:

    “Entomologist Dr. Ovid Byron speaking to television journalist, Tina, who says, regarding global warming,

    “Scientists of course are in disagreement about whether this is happening and whether humans have a role.”
    He replies:
    “The Arctic is genuinely collapsing. Scientists used to call these things the canary in the mine. What they say now is, the canary is dead. We are at the top of Niagara Falls, Tina, in a canoe. There is an image for your viewers. We got here by drifting, but we cannot turn around for a lazy paddle back when you finally stop pissing around. We have arrived at the point of an audible roar. Does it strike you as a good time to debate the existence of the falls?” p.367

    I don’t think there is any need for fear, or for trying to protect myself from the reality of our world.  Or arguing that it is happening or not.  I kind of knew that this was going to happen, didn’t you deep down?

    And being the emotional type that feels everything, I know I will feel sad and cry about things I hear about on the news.  Which is why I will stay where I am in a place where there are more trees than people, and where flowers and birds make me happy.  And paint when I can and surround myself with those friends and family that I love and that love me.

    What about you?

    The First Iris of the Season

    * BTW: All coprights on everything, including my photos.

    For Pity’s Sake, Relax!

    Wednesday, May 8th, 2013

    Jane

    Excuse me if I rant, but I have been thinking a lot lately about how fast my life is moving–and how fast the lives of all my friends are moving–and about how little relaxation time there is in my life–or in theirs.  And here is what I’ve concluded: Americans are crazy, and we are in love with work.  We work and work and work, and we never slow down.  Even when we relax, we’re working.  Take a look at your local YMCA and just watch the testosterone-driven people frantically getting their hour-long daily work-outs completed–and see if you agree with me.

    We keep going and we keep going!

    I really think that other countries have it way over on us.  At least, they have rituals that write relaxation into the story of their daily lives.  Germans take breaks and go to the local coffee shop and sit and eat a piece of cake with whipped cream (Schlag) on it.  People in India take long breaks in the afternoon to sleep off the heat.  English people have their tea breaks.  What do we have? :  the frantic rush to Starbucks to grab a fancy coffee drink that we don’t even have time to drink before we go to work and work, work, work all day, staying afterwards half the time to finish up some project that has kept us glued to our computer all day, needing coffee to stay awake.

    And what about those other rituals that countries have for keeping things in balance on a bigger scale?  Europeans go on vacation for long, leisurely weeks. (Americans take maybe their designated two weeks, at the most–and there have been studies that show that many people don’t even take their allotted vacation time.)   Scandinavian countries have systemized, months-long maternity and paternity leaves.  Our system usually forces us to get right back into work, as soon as possible.

    What is wrong with us?

    I often reflect how I wish Americans were more thoughtful and introspective about the direction their lives are taking–especially our politicians and leaders–but how can I expect that of anyone, when no one has time to sit and reflect on anything?  There is the subway to catch, the lunch to pack, the kid to pick up from school, the dinner to fix, the soccer game to attend.  And, on and on and on, like little robots on a giant treadmill that keeps showing us the same scenery, over and over.

    Keep going and going and going!

     

     

    Cinderfella and Other Wonderful Things

    Thursday, April 18th, 2013

    Jane

    This is going to be a short post today because the events of this week have been so totally depressing and discouraging. The folks in Washington voted down background checks; there were the awful events in Boston and in West, Texas. It’s enough to make you want to wring your hands or cry or give up. But here are three things that are keeping my spirits up tonight:
    1) The pictures of all the people helping others in Boston.
    2) The fact that my youngest daughter is right now in the back room, watching Jerry Lewis in the 1960 comedy “Cinderfella” on TV and laughing out loud! (That was one of my favorite movies when I was little, but I figured there was no way it could stand the test of time, but there is my daughter, watching and laughing.)
    3) The fact that New Zealand just voted to legalize gay marriage–and the crowds watching the vote burst out into a Maori love song in celebration.
    Check out the video below. My sister sent it to me today, and it’s so sweet.
    Life is good.

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