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    On My Son’s Graduation

    Wednesday, May 22nd, 2013

    JANE

    It’s gotta just be the work of the big engine in the sky that speeds up time as you get older.  I know that, for the first year of our children’s lives, time crawled along.  It was slowed down by sleepless nights, endless diaper changes, worries about nuclear war and kidnappings–or about dropping the baby or not getting the car seat put in the car correctly.  Then, for about the next 5 to 10 years, it managed to move a little faster, but it was still kept in its place by dumb homework assignments, school sports events, and endless worries about everything.  But ever since all four of our kids hit ages where I no longer have to worry obsessively about every detail of their lives—these ages where they are pretending to be grownups!—time seems to have jumped right onto the fast track.  And it won’t let up for a minute.

    Parker, Ready to Graduate!

     

    So now, my son, Parker, who started out as a little, chunky, always meditative boy, fondly referred to as “our Buddha baby,” is not only 6 foot 6 or 7 inches (but who’s counting?), but he’s graduating from college!!  Forgive me if I just cannot take it in.  Maybe if I scream it out:  “Parker is graduating from college, World!”  Nope.  Didn’t work.

    Taking a Break on the Road to Learn

     

      All I can say is, “How in the hell did this happen?”

     

     

    Parker, Home Stretch

     

    Question of the Week: What News Story Brings Back Your Early Teenage Years?

    Wednesday, May 1st, 2013

    This is an experiment to see if we can get our readers to join in more of a dialogue with us.  We are going to pose a question each week, and see if we can get some interesting responses.  The question for this week is:  “What one news story do you most associate with your early teenage years for you and why?”

    Here’s my answer:  The assassination of Martin Luther King

    And here’s why: at the time of King’s assassination, I was living on an Army post in Germany and feeling sad about our tour there coming to an end—and I was more than a little worried about going back to the States and entering high school.  There was a string of assassinations that summer—first King and then Bobby Kennedy—and these events had a powerful effect on me, much more so even than John Kennedy’s death, since I was only in the 4th grade for that one.

    The thing is that James Early Ray changed more than just one man’s life that day when he pulled that trigger:  my whole world was turned upside down.  The news stories and the pictures from that one event was that the United States had changed, in my head, from a place where beloved relatives lived and you could buy a wonderful hamburger into a land where good people got shot down.

    Martin Luther King Jr. and Coretta

    The States suddenly seemed dramatically different from our secure, enclosed post at the top of a hill overlooking the little town of Landstuhl, and I couldn’t think about going back there without having day-mares and nightmares.  And now, whenever I think about King’s assassination, I feel that same scary, sickening feeling in the pit of my stomach.  His death was not just the death of a great person—it was the first of many events that shook up my world and made me feel very aware of death, very aware of evil, very aware of how unpredictable and frightening a place the world could be.

     

    A Book You Don’t Want To Miss: The Plum Tree by Ellen Marie Wiseman

    Sunday, April 28th, 2013

    Annice

    So many blogs for women over 50 post about fashion accessories, new hair products, anti-aging products, and diets.  While I’m not against any of those topics, I am so happy to post one of my favorite things on oops50.com – new books, especially books by new authors.  Today, I not only want to introduce you to a new book I’ve just read, The Plum Tree by Ellen Marie Wiseman,

    Ellen Marie Wiseman

    but share an interview I had with the author last week.

    The story takes place in a small German town in WWII where a  “young, working-class Christian German woman struggles to survive poverty, Allied bombs, and the wrath of the Gestapo while trying to save the love of her life, a Jewish man.”  That story line alone was enough for me to buy the book.  In fact, I devour anything that hints of the Holocaust which means I’m becoming more and more like my father who consumed mass quantities of books (fiction and non-fiction) that had anything to do with WWII and Hitler.  So many in our family perished in concentration camps, and those that survived were full of stories, and their stories definitely left a lasting impression on me as a child.

    Very quickly into the book, I was aware that this story was different, and for the first time, I was reading about the War, and not measuring who suffered more, Christians or Jews?  Moved by the power of the story, I searched for the author on FaceBook, friended her, and asked for an interview.  Graciously, Ellen accepted, and this is how it went:

    Oops50:  Why did you decide to write this story and is any of it biographical?

    Old Family Photo

     Ellen: I grew up visiting Germany because my mother’s family is there.  I grew up listening to stories of my mother’s childhood and my grandparent’s struggle to survive the war.  My grandfather was captured by the Russians, and even though he eventually escaped, my grandmother didn’t know for two years whether he was dead or alive, until he showed up on their doorstep one day.  And, like Christine’s grandfather in the book who was killed during an air raid, that happened to my great grandfather.  On one trip to Germany, I visited the bomb shelter where my family hid.  Also, like Christine’s mother, my grandmother put food out for the passing Jewish prisoners and listened to foreign radio broadcasts, both crimes punishable by death. 

    Oops50: At the center of your book is a love story between Christine, an average Christian girl who falls in love with Isaac, a young Jewish man from a wealthy family.  Is any of that part of your mother’s story?

    Ellen:  No.  While my mother and grandmother experienced lots of things, this was not their story.  I added a love story because I wanted to tell the Jewish story, too.  The story had been brewing in me for a long time.  In school, where I grew up in Three Mile Bay, NY, everyone knew I was German.  Kids even called me a Nazi.  At a certain point, I knew I wanted to tell the story of poor German families like my mother’s because I knew they suffered, but didn’t’ know how much.  There is a lot of collective guilt, and the Germans feel they can’t talk about how they suffered.  They feel they aren’t allowed to speak about what happened to them.  So, I wanted to be that voice and tell that story.

    Oops50:  How did your mother feel about you writing a book so close to her experiences?

    Ellen's Mother's Hometown

    Ellen:  My mother is amazing.  She’s always had a lot going on in her personal life.  My sister was in a car accident and remained in a vegetative state for 23 years just like Terry Schiavo, if you remember that case.  My mother took care of my sister at home all those years until she passed away in 2010.  She sees darkness and lightness in life, and she is more grateful for the life she has now.  So, over the years, I had heard pieces about her life, and when I got serious about writing the book, I gave my mother a questionnaire.  One memory would trigger another, then another, and it wasn’t until she’d read the whole book that she said, “holy cow – I survived that.”  At the time, she just didn’t think about her suffering.  Again, it goes back to the collective guilt.  I think Germany is still sorting all that out.

    Oops50: Your mother does sound amazing.  Was it depressing at times to do that kind of research?  Did it affect your psyche?

    Ellen:  Not really. If anything, it made me even more grateful for the many blessing I have in my life.

    Oops50:  Has there been any backlash from Jews for telling a story from the German experience?

    Ellen: Not at all.  All the feedback has been positive.  It’s been very encouraging.

    Oops50:  I’d like to talk a little about the process of writing the book.  How long did it take and did you do a lot of research?

    Ellen:  As I said, the idea had been brewing for a long time. I actually started writing the book in 2006, after my daughter graduated from High School.  It took me about four years to write.

    Oops50:  With the publishing industry in such turmoil, what was your publishing experience like?   Was it hard to find an agent?  Did you think about self-publishing?

    Ellen:  I thought about self-publishing but I really wanted to try the traditional route first.  I got 72 rejections from agents, but I just believed in my story and didn’t want to give up.  Then, after I sent out one more letter, I got picked up, and it didn’t take long for my agent to sell it.  And now, I’m working on my second book with the same publisher.

    Oops50: So is your next book historical fiction, too?

    Ellen:  No.  My second book is more contemporary.  I like historical fiction, and I was passionate about my story, but my publisher didn’t want me to be pigeonholed with another WWII book.

    Oops50:  Has the book been sold in Germany?

    Ellen:  No.  We’ve sold foreign rights in Italy, Spain and Sweden, but not yet in Germany.

    Oops50:  So now that you’ve published the book, are you enjoying the aftermath, any book tours?

    Ellen:  Yes. The publishers do a lot of behind the scenes promotions such as the blog tour on-line, sending out the book to lots of different places for review, but unless you’re a well known author, they don’t do more than that, and they don’t pay for book tours.

    Oops50:  Interesting.  And what about readings in your local book store?

    Ellen:  I live in a town with no book store.  I have to drive an hour to get to one.  But, I did have a signing at Sam’s and several of the local libraries.

    Oops50:  Sam’s Club?  That’s amazing.  I love that Sam’s has book signings in your town.  Is there anything else you’d like to say to our readers?

    Ellen:  Yes, please spread the word about “The Plum Tree”, and if you don’t mind writing reviews on Amazon, that would be wonderful!

    Oops50:  Ellen, thank you so much for spending time with me and agreeing to an interview.  And, I’m looking forward to your next book.

    Ellen:Thank you so much for having me!

     

     

     

    Sadhvi Sez: Being in Love with Nature

    Monday, April 22nd, 2013

    SADHVI

    I don’t know what is going on lately, but the more I try to keep up with what’s going on in the world, the more I find myself going inside.  It’s not that I don’t care about people and things that are newsworthy, it’s just that I think I’m at the point of screaming, “Uncle!”

    Thankfully, Spring has arrived here.  Interestingly enough, the plant growth rate seems to be very rapid this year.  I mean, the mint just started to come up a week or so ago, and now it’s a foot high where I haven’t pinched any off for the rabbits.  Everything seems to be growing so quickly.  The cilantro that overwintered is bolting; the nettle is almost 3 feet high; the rhubarb is flowering already.  Hmmm.

    While taking my evening walk with my dog tonight, I was aware that today is “Earth Day”.  I looked around at the green growth that was everywhere, and I felt so much joy.  Even though it was a busy day with work, I knew that this is the last week to plant poppy seeds, and I had saved some bachelor buttons from last year, the blue ones, and those needed to get in the ground.  Then I have to move a couple of rose plants that are spaced a bit too close together, and…then I smelled something that made me smile:  plum blossoms!  It’s such a unique smell that reminds me of the way my grandmother, Mabel Carter, who is long dead, used to smell.  Then I needed to get some compost and when I rounded the corner, I smelled the sweet shrub that had opened drifting in the air, just like a ripe melon!

    MY OLD SWISS GNOME

    SPRING APPLE MINT

    So yes, the world will go on getting more and more insane.  That’s fine.  I am drawing a line in the ground: I am going to start to feed Sadhvi what she likes.  It’s time.  Funny when I opened the mailbox and saw that my TIME magazine subscription was about to run out, you know what, I tore it in half and threw it in the trash on my way to feed and water the chickens.

     

    “When the world wearies and society ceases to satisfy, there is always the garden.” 
    Minnie Aumonier


    PIE CHERRY BLOSSOMS

    SPRING CHICKENS

    Cinderfella and Other Wonderful Things

    Thursday, April 18th, 2013

    Jane

    This is going to be a short post today because the events of this week have been so totally depressing and discouraging. The folks in Washington voted down background checks; there were the awful events in Boston and in West, Texas. It’s enough to make you want to wring your hands or cry or give up. But here are three things that are keeping my spirits up tonight:
    1) The pictures of all the people helping others in Boston.
    2) The fact that my youngest daughter is right now in the back room, watching Jerry Lewis in the 1960 comedy “Cinderfella” on TV and laughing out loud! (That was one of my favorite movies when I was little, but I figured there was no way it could stand the test of time, but there is my daughter, watching and laughing.)
    3) The fact that New Zealand just voted to legalize gay marriage–and the crowds watching the vote burst out into a Maori love song in celebration.
    Check out the video below. My sister sent it to me today, and it’s so sweet.
    Life is good.

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