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Flying Solo on Valentine’s Day – You’re Not Alone

Barbara Brady
Barbara Brady

Faith Popcorn, a marketing expert who predicts future trends, has predicted  “the rise of the solo citizen,” or what she calls “Single-Arity”. 

“In the last decade single households have increased by 30 percent worldwide.  Single is the new black.  Single culture will define the mainstream trends of tomorrow.  Single status is now being celebrated, and in 2012 China created “Singles Day” to honor its growing solo population.

We all know that we can feel loneliest when we’re in a relationship that just doesn’t feel right. When you’re flying solo, you can choose how you feel.  You can be “alone”, yet content and happy.  When we base our happiness on external conditions, like whether or not we have a wonderful mate, it’s hopeless.  So, whether you’re solo or coupled, decide to be happy now.  

Give yourself the gifts of self-care and self-love.  Today…

 ~ Eat some delectable, high quality chocolate.  Chocolate raspberry truffles, chocolate, chocolate chip cookies, warm chocolate croissants.  Chocolate stimulates the release of endorphins that generate feelings of pleasure and promotes a sense of well being.

Chocolate Raspberry Truffles
Chocolate Raspberry Truffles

~ Call a favorite friend or family member and tell them what you love and appreciate about them. Thank them for being in your life.

~ Indulge in a luxurious lavender bubble bath, light some candles and put on your favorite, relaxing music.

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A Bubble Bath

 

~ Relax with homemade buttered popcorn and a fun inspiring movie that speaks to self-love and living life fully, like “Eat, Pray, Love”, “Shirley Valentine” or  “How Stella Got Her Groove Back”.

~ Write yourself a love letter.  Tell yourself how much you love and appreciate YOU.  Don’t worry – no one has to see it. 🙂

~ Consider planning a self-marriage ceremony.  

~ Relish your time with self.  In treating yourself lovingly, you’re telling the universe this is how you expect to be treated by others.  

“I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back.  But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself.  And if you can find someone to love the you, you love, well, that’s just fabulous.” Carrie from Sex and the City

Warmly,

Barbara

Barbara Brady

Coach & Trainer, Global Leadership / Intercultural / Transformation through Transition

barbara@mycoachbarbara.com

www.mycoachbarbara.com

 

No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.

Albert Einstein

My Life Doesn’t Fit In My Jeans!

Cynthia Ackrill, MD

Ask an audience of 500 high-achieving women what isn’t fitting for them and you will get a lot of answers – from jeans to life to some things that truly can’t be printed! But over and over I hear recurring themes. We want to feel like our life fits, like our precious time and energy is spent in ways that reflect our values, in ways that make us feel effective, and in ways that leave us energy to take care of ourselves and have some fun! 

Why is this so hard? Why do so many truly remarkable women feel drained, their energy scattered in so many directions? To address this critical subject, we’ve invited Cynthia Ackrill, MD to share her expertise and understanding with our readers.

The secret may be in the error of the phrase I just used: “in ways that leave us energy to take care of ourselves and have some fun!” This is completely backwards! Yet, it is such a pervasive concept it is part of our culture. We take care of ourselves last, even give ourselves and each other kudos for the sheer martyrdom of it all. We are secretly competitive to do more than those around us. We are continually rewarded for external achievement, not for our ability to balance healthy self-care with managing the challenges of careers and lives. Sure, you might get noticed for dropping some weight, but it is rare for our culture- corporate or otherwise- to recognize the art of life balance.

Yet aren’t we drawn to those folks who have that grounded-ness, that vitality that comes from putting themselves on their own to-do list? And don’t we really know, somewhere deep inside, that making sure we have stoked the fires of our energy resources pays off–getting enough sleep, good nutrition, movement, recreation, social connection, etc. We certainly know it when we send children off to school. We know their little bodies must have the basic needs met to learn. Yet we expect our brains to be creative when cheating our rest and nutrients.  

Energy spent must be replaced. It’s not linear, by any means. Beyond the basic human needs, what refuels us varies. But we are all systems that operate best when balanced. And often it takes so little to tip the scales back toward balance. 10 minutes of me-time in the middle of a day can recharge batteries for hours. 10 minutes! 2 minutes of breath work can reset your brain and heart- how cool!

What can you do for yourself today to help your life fit? To reclaim some energy for your fabulous life?

To learn more about Cynthia Ackrill, speaker, coach and president of WellSpark, please visit her at her website.