Dear Johanna,
I recently had the feeling, after 25 years of being with my husband, that something was wrong. I asked him if he hated me, and he said yes. I asked him why and he said it’s because I am always right. Should I be concerned?
Puzzled in Pittsburgh
Dear Puzzled,
If he hated you for any other reason, I would be concerned. However, as I always say, you can’t be anyone but yourself. If you are perfect, what can you do?
Dear Johanna,
Why does my husband give me a hard time every time I want to go visit my family–which, by the way, is only, at the most, 3 times a year? He rarely comes with me because he doesn’t want to (I don’t think he even likes my family that much), and that’s fine with me, but why does he have to give me such a hard time about going?
Anxious in Atlanta
Dear Anxious,
Because it’s all about HIM. What can I say? I see this over and over! Just go, girl, and have a good time. He’ll get over it. Bring him a present from the airport!
Dear Johanna,
My husband and I both have devices to help us sleep, since we have sleep apnea. I have a CPAP machine, and he has a mouth guard that makes his jaw jut forward. My only problem is this: these things seriously kill the mood. I mean, how romantic can you really be if you have to unhook yourself from a face mask just to kiss your husband, who has to remove his mouth guard to kiss you back?
Lonesome in Landisville
Dear Lonesome,
I’ve heard this before, from other readers. Here are some useful suggestions: 1) don’t start up your machine (and tell him to avoid the mouth guard) until you’re absolutely sure that you’re both too tired to even want to kiss goodnight 2) if you’ve already started the machine, breathe a little more heavily and more rhythmically into it, so that he gets a message from your breaths 3) turn your face mask toward his ear and let it blow warm air into it 4) drape the tubing suggestively down the front of your body. If none of these suggestions help, I’d say work harder on losing weight so that you can lose the machine!
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